Reason #8 you need self-Mastery

...Life would be more FUN if you could count on yourself to SHOW UP Do any of these avoidance techniques sound familiar? 1. Procrastination 2. Shutting people out and hiding in your room 3. Refusing to talk about it 4. Leaving 5. Numbing out with substances, food, videos, etc. 6. Getting sick 7. Standing on the sidelines criticizing the players 8. Feeling left out instead of suggesting something else 9. Pretending the problem doesn't exist 10. Changing your schedule so you're not there when others are 11. Telling yourself or others that another task has to be done instead What other ones do you use? What happens to the problem while you're not dealing with it, or the work while yo

Reason #7 you need self-Mastery

...You could feel HEALTHIER and MORE ALIVE How alive and healthy do you feel right now? 5 Bursting with energy and enthusiasm; fully alive and vibrant 4 Energized, healthy, happy, interested in life 3 Enough energy to get the job done but not great 2 Low energy, run-down, bored, some health issues 1 Lethargic, checked out, depressed, in pain, or ill What have you told yourself or done recently that contributed to your current state? Be honest with yourself. Even if you have an organic illness, consider the fact that most of the medical issues common in the developed world right now are considered to be lifestyle related (that is, caused at least to some extent by diet, exercise, emotional s

Reason #6 you need self-Mastery

...Drama is exhausting Fear, anxiety, pain, intense disappointment, disgust, anger, irritation, frustration, betrayal, jealousy, grief ... they all share the common property of stimulating the body's "molecules of emotion," including the stress hormones. They are literally exhausting to the body as well as the soul, eventually taxing the adrenal glands and leading to a host of physical symptoms, as well as decreased ability to cope emotionally. So how do we moderate our emotional responses to avoid all this exhausting drama? I've developed a new approach to working magically with emotions that views them as sensory signals of the energy flows in situations. The key is to notice the first sig

Reason #5 you need self-Mastery

...If you dismantle your emotional triggers, other people can get close to you SAFELY Emotional triggers are those little land mines that people can step on by saying or doing the wrong thing, "causing" an avalanche of old emotional garbage to come cascading down into your psyche. Overwhelmed, you go into unconscious defensiveness, where you react angrily or put up walls. Meanwhile, the poor soul who stepped on the mine is ripped up by shrapnel and/or left out in the cold. If the emotional space around you is littered with emotional land mines, no one can get close to you safely. They can tip-toe around, walking on eggshells, hoping not to set one off, but they know it's only a matter of tim

Reason #4 you need self-Mastery

...self-Mastery attracts GOOD LUCK! Most of the time, I've noticed that my luck is directly related to my attitude... if one is good, so is the other, and the luck follows the attitude, not the other way around! Here's an example: One Saturday morning not long ago I woke up to no water (i.e. it's before dawn and I shat and the toilet didn't flush). I was just awake enough to think "Ok, I have a choice here. I can be really pissed off that instead of going back to my bed on a Saturday morning I have to schlepp enough water to flush the toilet and then diagnose what's wrong with the well, OR I can be grateful. Grateful that there's water in the creek and a new bucket on the porch. Gratefu

Reason #3 you need self-Mastery

...It's past time to forgive your parents, and their parents, AND GET ON WITH IT! I just had a conversation with some friends this morning about how hard it is to look forward to seeing your birth family over the holidays when you're holding your breath waiting for them to apologize for those big hurtful things you're holding onto from the past. What if they never do? What if they're doing the best they can? Are you big enough to show them mercy (forgiving and loving them even if they don't deserve it)? self-Mastery enables us to let go of our attachments to the past, embrace the present, and move forward with becoming the person we were meant to be and doing the things we came here to do.

Reason #2 you need self-Mastery:

...People who are masters of themselves attract friends, coworkers, bosses, and lovers who are masters of themselves, too. No, you can't change the annoying tendency of the people around you to criticize, complain, shirk their work, stand you up, succumb to their addictive patterns, or otherwise fall short of self-Mastery. But if you take full responsibility for your own behavior, you'll find that those relationships do shift, those people annoy you less, and new people appear in your life who are consciously creating their lives. Taking responsibility for your own behavior doesn't have to be a chore! Ultimately, it is a joyful process that involves 1. Focusing on what is really important

Reason #1 you need self-Mastery:

...It works better to control yourself, NOT OTHER PEOPLE! Do you want more money, security, vitality, sobriety, fun, sex, power, respect, love, music, focus, insight, ecstasy, joy, or peace in 2015? If so, whose behavior (primarily) needs to change in order for that goal to be realized? Would it be easier for you to do what needs to be done in order to manifest the life you want if you could Stay focused on what's really important to you, and what you have the power to change, with the help of the gods? Free your will from distractions, bad habits, attachment to the past, procrastination, blaming, conflict, and "forgetting"? Use your emotions consciously to accurately read situations and cho

Solstice/New Year's Eve gratitude ritual

Our family for many years has practiced a gratitude ritual together on the evening of the longest night of the year. We gather around the fireplace with a basket full of new pillar candles and make ourselves comfortable. Then, one by one, we speak aloud the many things we are grateful for in the past year. Even the kids take a long time about this, because even teenagers who ordinarily complain a great deal know that there is much in our lives to celebrate. At the end of the litany of gratitude, each person makes a wish for the coming year, lights their candle, and places it in its place in the candelabra in the fireplace to burn as a candle spell over the longest night. You may wis

Conscious gift-giving

Conscious gift-giving: Did you know that Americans spend on average over $700 per person on holiday gifts, or about 1 1/2 % of their total annual budget? Holiday gifts cost a lot of money (even if you're below the national average), and it's well worth bringing your gift spending in line with the wisdom of your Divine Spirit. The time and resources spent on gift-giving can be a conduit for love and be used to strengthen our relationships, if we take the time to give gifts consciously. Gift-giving meditation: Picture the person you're selecting a gift for, or, better yet, notice them in your daily interactions. Get in touch with your feelings of affection and love for them. What is